We’re bringing back a series that might be old to some but new to others. Some years ago, our founder, Unoma Nwankwor talked with Detola Amure of Superworking Mom. Here’s the interview.
I’m excited to bring you a woman whom I’ve admired not only for her work ethic but her strong desire to help Christian Mums achieve their mission here on earth. I had the pleasure of interviewing her and I’d like you to help me welcome to the blog Detola Amure.
Unoma: Okay first off, tell us who is Detola Amure?
Detola: I am the daughter of the most High God, a determined Go getter woman. I am a Productivity and Transformational Growth Mentor. I love life and passionate about helping women find their purpose in life. Some of the ladies I have mentored call me their spiritual midwife. I can only give glory to God for such an assignment. I love to write and be an encouragement to others around me. I am married with two amazing children and live in the UK.
Unoma: Yes, indeed you are a go getter. That was the first thing I noticed when we met online. Your passion shone through Facebook…LOL. In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?
Detola: Be rest assured, God always makes provision for the vision.
Unoma: That’s really nice and true. My husband said something like that to me once, years ago and it stuck. Focus on the mission. God got the provision. What is the driving force in your life?
Detola: My driving force is my Abba Father. Without HIM I am NOTHING. The assignment He has given me to fulfill on planet earth, gets me up in the morning and drives me every day to be better than I was yesterday and to be a blessing to the nation He has sent me too.
Unoma: Amen sister. I couldn’t have said it better. That’s basically what this life is all about. Finding the balance in your mission as an individual and family can be challenging. How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?
Detola: I always make sure I start my day with God so he can set the agenda for the day. I have noticed that when I surrender my day to Him it goes much better than I could ever envisage. Not that challenges won’t come but I am more equipped to handle them. Also, I am learning to embrace my seasons and to say no to anything not in alignment with that season. It can be tough especially when they all look like great opportunities so I always ask God to make it clear to me what I should say no to and what I should say yes too. Rather than trying to find balance, I see my life as a blended life; with God at the center, directing me on where and what I need to prioritize at every season in my life. Knowing what this priority is helps me stay grounded and balanced.
Unoma: I agree. However sometimes those priorities are not really clear. Or they get overshadowed by a life event that throws you off focus. That’s the main reason I decided it was time to write my upcoming book In The Dark. Having persevering confidence in uncertainty can be daunting. What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?
Detola: I have had a few devastating experiences but the one that comes to mind now is getting laid off work when I was three months pregnant with my son. It shook me as for a long time my identity was tied to my career. I didn’t realise this at the time though. I remember crying in my bed, depressed for about 2 weeks. The only time I got out of bed was to get something to eat or use their bathroom. It was that bad! I remember God chastising me, one day during one of my pity parties. I had to ask Him for mercy and to forgive me for making that situation about me. I then asked Him for direction for the next step which He said was to take time out to focus on building Super Working Mum. I also began to realized that my identity is in Him and not in a job title. This was how I overcame the experience.
Unoma: Wow! I can imagine that kind of hopelessness in the moment. It was the same when my apartment burned down years ago. Everything I had was gone…just gone. You wake up one morning with plans and in a matter of hours, the rug is ripped from under you. Hmm. That brings me to my next question. How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?
Detola: By meditating on the word of God, declaring the word of God out loud, having a support system and journaling. Journaling allows me to write out my thoughts and also listen for what God is saying to me during the dark moments.
Unoma: I too have recently come to the realization of the effectiveness of journaling. Actually, I have been doing it since my teen years but then it was called “writing in a notebook” LOL. But you’re correct, when you internationalize your thoughts in faith, the possibilities are endless. I wrote about this in a post called The Intentionality of Journaling
(Sidenote: You can check out Detola’s Journal here.)
Unoma: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?
Detola: I can’t say I understand the future or what will happen however I know and trust in the one that holds my future: Jesus. He has promised me a great future so that’s enough hope for me in the present. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.
Unoma: LOL. Yea, imagine if we could see the future, I don’t think we could handle it quite frankly. But that’s what I was referring to, the knowledge that He promised you a great future. So in that vein, what does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.
Detola: It means on a daily basis surrendering my schedule to God, asking Him what his agenda for the day is and allowing him to lead. It means waking up in the morning and giving thanks to God for another beautiful day, receiving grace and mercy he has provided for each day. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.
Unoma: Committing to God is so important. It helps us remain focused. Especially when we have no control over the action of others. What advice would you give your younger self?
Detola: Hmm! Me to younger self: Aim to please your audience of One: God and no one else. People are fickle and will always change their mind, but God never changes his mind about you. So, trust Him and be content if the only approval you get is from Him.
Unoma: You are speaking my language; audience of ONE. Thank you so much for joining me. I’m glad we could have this chat. Before we go what can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?
Detola: I am working on a new book and a new journal in the Super Working Mum journal series.
Unoma: Great. Looking forward to it. Tell the readers how they can reach you.
Detola: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and my website www.superworkingmum.com or http://www.detolaamure.com
Unoma: Thank again! Folks, here’s is Detola’s official bio.
Detola Amure (also known as Aloted Omoba) is married to her amazing husband and they have three children. She is the founder of Super Working Mum, an organization dedicated to helping Christian Mums maximize their time so that they can manifest their God given dreams. She is a Best-selling author and an international speaker. You can find a list of her works here
We’ve enjoyed putting this interview together for you and hope you drop a comment and share. Someone out there can benefit from this. It is easy to dance when the light is shining but how do you manage #inthedark? Let us know. Next week we’ll have another amazing interview.
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Don’t forget you can get your copy of In The Dark & the Light Pearls Prayer Journal and other resources here